life coaching for people who want to take back control!
I coach people who say ‘f**k you’ to their chronic pain
So many of us put up with pain day in, day out, and to be honest it can be hard to focus on much else. It sucks when you feel like doctors don’t understand, and that last-ditch attempt at the elusive ‘cure’ has, again, failed miserably. You’re well enough to work, get out of the house, and you don’t look sick, but you’re in enough pain that you have to micro-manage each little bit of your day. You end up with lists upon lists of things you just need to get around to, but the never-ending cycle seems to keep on going. It’s exhausting being exhausted!
yes… but How will coaching help?
Coaching is all about focusing on the good stuff, without trying to ‘smile yourself better’. We’ll bring the focus back onto you, onto what you really want, and onto what you can achieve, rather than all that bollocks getting in your way.
Coaching gives the power back to you. You’re the one in control, not your pain. Through coaching you’re proactively helping yourself, instead of reacting to your pain. It’s all about learning what’s going on inside, challenging your limiting beliefs, and understanding what’s important to you. You can, and will, re-find your identity beyond chronic pain.
If you want to know more about me, my background, and why I think coaching is the best thing since sliced bread…
what you can expect…
Each session will increase your self-awareness so you notice and understand more of what you do and why you do it.
The more you progress and surpass your expectations, the more your confidence will increase.
We’ll spend time noticing your triggers, what depletes your resilience, and what builds it back up.
You’ll have a dedicated, regular time where you don’t have to worry about what’s going on around you and you don’t have to censor yourself. It’s the ultimate self-care time.
Instead of trying to desperately repress or distract yourself from the pain and the feelings associated with that pain, you’ll learn how to get comfortable with them.
We’ll rediscover the importance of gratitude and being thankful for what you have. Pain often takes away so much, so it’s good to flip perspectives.
I provide a non-judgemental, empathetic ear as someone who understands what it’s like to live with chronic pain. So you’ve not showered in 3 days… I get it.
We’ll take a deeper look into what makes you tick, which means we’ll get past the excuses you tell yourself and instigate some real, lasting change.
We’ll work with what’s realistic. I’m not going to encourage you to completely turn your life upside down when you’ve already got enough on your plate. We work at your pace.
What Coaching is Not…
I’m not interested in helping you find a cure. For me, it’s not about getting rid of your chronic pain, it’s about owning it.
I’m not a medical professional, I won’t recommend any treatments, and I’m not a replacement for psychological therapy. If you need alternative support, please seek it out.
I’m not a perfect person and I don’t claim to have all the answers. I still struggle sometimes and want to hide away in my duvet fort, and that’s OK. I’m not going to judge you if you hit a bit of a bump in the road.
There is no quick fix. It requires hard work, effort, and determination; qualities which most people with chronic pain tend to have anyway. If you’re not prepared to put in the work, I can’t do it for you.
I use techniques and philosophies that are based in psychology and science, so I’m not going to promise you instant healing or a spiritual experience.
We’re not going to try to distract you from your pain or sweep your past under the rug. We do try to keep the focus on the future and the positive, but it’s more about finding a healthy balance and developing helpful habits.
Am I The COACH FOR You?
Do these statements make you think “oh my God, that’s me!”?